The Hippie Mechanic

We met on eHarmony during Labor Day weekend 2008. Racing through stages in about a day, we got to the point of exchanging numbers. I find him very cute, capable of writing a decent profile and (bonus) he has a nice sounding voice. I figure this is worth my standard test date.

I show up right on time, he is late. I am starting to get a bit concerned when he finally walks in. I smile and wave at him, but by then he has turned his head and is scanning the entire room. I think to myself: “Do I really look that different from my pictures?”. He is starting at the only other single woman in the place (who happens to be about 10 years older than me and is very overweight.) Finally I stand up and he notices me. He approaches and I say “Hi!” his response is “Are you Sonya?” “Yes”. Suddenly a look of relief passes across his face. We lock eyes and smile. He excuses himself to go purchase a frappa-mocha-whachamacallit.

The first thing he brings up when he sits down is that he called me back a couple of times after we hung up. It turns out he is a non-paying member of the site and unable to see other member’s pictures. He was only able to respond to me because it was a free communication weekend. He was calling me back to ask what I look like!! I find it refreshing and sweet that he was willing to drive 40 minutes to meet someone that he had not seen a pic of. Plus as the title mentions he is a hippie: very laid back, snowboarder, stretched lobes, 420.

We really hit it off. I really wanted to kiss him, and I can tell he wants to as well. But I like him enough to stick to my “no first date kiss” plan. We meet up again the next day for a movie, lunch, and then to hang at his place. The date ends up being about 9 or 10 hours long. We do some making out, I meet two of his sisters and one of his friends. We are kinda high school with each other, holding hands and smiling and little kisses. He walks me to the car and is very cute in all his actions and mannerisms.

I sent him a couple of pics of me (which he later confesses to using as a background on this iPhone.) He sends one back. We fall into this e-mailing everyday, calling once and a while pattern. At one point he comes over to my place to see me and things get very hot.

He is super cute and just my type in terms of looks: INK, piercings, shaved head, cute face. But the boy is SKINNY!! Nevertheless there is a strong attraction between us and the chemistry is working wonders on each other. Skip to the bedroom. Prob? He is sort of small (you know where) and I’m very dissappointed.

So what’s a girl to do? I am willing to work with what he has, considering his skills and all. In the end the experience was good, not great. Skip ahead a week or two. Suddenly, the e-mails and calls are less and less frequent, then stop alltogether. One time on the phone he got the impression I was with someone else. He decided to back off and see if I tried to contact him. Which I did of course.

This guy would be great for me ins some ways; he is so peaceful and sweet that he could teach me a thing or two. He is also very romantic. The major issues now are 1) he freaked out so easily and 2)he is way too busy to have the type of relationship that I want. He works all the damn time, and very different hours than me. Did I mention that he is a mechanic, swing shift. And a waiter at Denny’s. I work an office job. At one point we went 2 weeks without seeing each other. And once the boarding season hits, I will never see him. The only way I can continue to see this one would be to continue to date other people as well.

I’m not throwing this one back yet, but unless I get the commitment question from him, I am going to continue to date other men.

~ by scifibutterfly on September 20, 2008.