The Yuppie Versus The Hippie: an update

Well, a friend of mine commented that my struggle reminded her of what Winona Ryder was going through in Reality Bites. I think that is hilarious! It’s so true though. She was broke and looking for a job, I’m broke and looking for a new job. Her yuppie was kind of an arrogant asshole, my yuppie is a total arrogant asshole. Her hippie had a good heart that he was afraid to show, my hippie has a good heart he is willing to show. It’s close anyway.

After only knowing him one week, the yuppie starts to scrutinize every thing I say and do, expecting me to hurt him or fall short in some way. I put up with this for about a week, but finally had to let him go. During the break up process I told him he was too focused on work, too ambitious and too materialistic. He acts like he is fine with the break up and even throws in his own reasons we should split. A week goes by. and he starts to call me, over and over again. No messages, no explainations. Also no texts or emails. It’s as though he finally gets that I prefer vocal communications. After four days of him calling and calling, I finally return the call. When I call him, he happens to be at work. (I called after his normal work hours- but SURPRIZE! the dildo is working overtime on a Friday night.) He tells me that “he doesn’t have time to talk” WTF???

I’ve talked to him about this before. I have asked him not to pick up the phone if he can’t talk. What kind of person picks up the phone just to say hello, I can’t talk right now? That’s what voice mail was invented for. It really pissed me off. So I didn’t bother to hide it when I called him. When he calls back four hours later, he asked if I was “doing better than before” that I sounded “really mad when I was on the phone earlier.” Then he has the nerve to put me on hold for almost five minutes.

The two phone calls are a complete confirmation that I am never the first thing on his mind. Everything else comes first. And he wonders why I broke it off? This guy is a waste of my time. I have a friend over and the Yuppie just happens to click back when I am telling him that I am going to hang up. The creep starts yelling at me, “don’t hang up, fuck, I had you hold for like 5 minutes, what’s the big deal?” Yell, yell, yada yada – I just hung up the guy.

I don’t want some uptight guy that yells at me all the time and is focused on his work, he considers that a person’s job is 80 % of their life!

The hippie is the exact opposite- as you would expect. Totally laid back, mellow, not in a hurry to do anything. I like it. When I am with him I am relaxed and happy and he makes me feel beautiful. The problem is that we never see each other, and over the course of a couple of weeks, we are texting less and less. Keep in mind that he completely stopped calling as soon as he got my cell phone and was able to text. He is so mellow that he doesn’t see much importance in communicating with me or making time to see me. This is before the snowboard season has even hit, just imagine what it would be like then!

I haven’t told him yet, but I’m ending that one too. It’s not as though he did anything wrong, or is a jerk, I am just looking for someone that can invest a little more time. (And he is not that good in bed, so what the point, really?) I’m just not looking forward to telling him. He will take it well, because he is a mellow hippie anyway. Plus it’s not too big of a deal because we have grown apart since Labor Day anyway. But he is sweet, very sweet and I don’t have the easiest time with “nice” break ups.

And the search continues……….

Why do all men like text and IM so much? Is it to keep their hands busy so that they don’t play with their dicks all the time?

~ by scifibutterfly on October 4, 2008.